therapeutic cohering

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Recalling Janna’s death, I realized more reconciliation: “therapeutic living,” Jan. 1, 2012

But I felt immersed in experimental transgression: “textual intimacy, Take 2,” Jan. 1, 2012

But speaking of Janna, I came across this old thing: “lovely cohering,” Feb. 18, 2005

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bearing, standing, bearing, and moving on

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I’ve been unwittingly very unfair too many times. Thankfullly, I’ve soon recognized my unfairness more often than I’ve been confronted by it. 

he was an aging aspiration...

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...idealizing singularity.

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wise guy

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Late summer, 2010, I thought it would be great to become pregnant nine months before one’s wedding anniversary…

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quite the contrary

Though implicitly, all

I’ve shown, the past

three years, has been (and will be) thanks

to, honoring, and (in this ongoing

sense) for

you.

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something (or someone) to cultivate

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authentic happiness without one’s own children

An elementary school teacher presumably cherishes children; likewise with a pediatrician or child psychologist. Choosing to not have any children of one’s own can be a valid life choice for persons who nonetheless cherish children. Contrary pressures from family, social presumptions about good lives, and dominance of reproductive economics in the market can be severe. Bravery may be required, especially for women, to stand for one’s ownmost life (an inner-directing basis for outer-directed life) when the ecology trains one to feel otherwise (an outer-directing basis for inner-directed life). 

preface to a long discussion on happiness without children

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Like the teacher who is a teacher because s/he loved children, but has none of his/her own, I’m fascinated by child development, though I don’t regret never having been a parent with children who are biologically “mine.” (Children aren’t property, of course.)